Making Etiquette Easy: The Money Complainer

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Most of us have seen some hard times in our past and have, at one point or another, been at the mercy of a budget. So we can totally sympathize when one of our friends is reformatting his or her life in light of recent financial changes. But it's taken to a whole new level when all we hear about it how 'strapped' they are, and watching them turn bitter as their complaints keep broadening. You can be there for your friend while also being the voice of reason by following the etiquette tips below:

• Dealing with the Complaints: Acknowledge your friend's complaints by letting him or her know that you are sorry to hear of their trouble. Resist the urge to paint the silver lining, since you don't want to downplay their struggle. If they continue to pester you with the same remarks, say, "Yes, you mentioned that. Again, I'm sorry."
• Organizing Positive Meet-ups: It's likely that your friend won't be initiating any contact for a while as financial messes can end up making them feel trapped inside the house. Reach out to him or her and suggest things you can do together that won't cost anything. Think about picnics in the park, a Redbox movie night, or a walk at the park.
• Being Wary of Spending Habits: It's very frustrating to have a friend always discussing his or her lack of cash, only to find that they are wearing the latest designer shoes or carrying Apple's most recent invention. In this scenario, you should express your concern for the person by letting them know you've heard what they've been saying, but also see what they've been spending. Offer to talk openly about how they're dealing with the transition.
• Don't be Bothered: For some people, complaining about money might not even be a real indication of financial trouble. Ever met a straight A student who never felt like he or she did 'well' on a test? It's in some peoples' nature to shed a negative light on things. If this is the case of your friend, either ignore the remarks or politely point out that they're usually more responsible than they infer they are.