It’s almost Valentines Day, which is a perfect time to look at some dating etiquette tips in today’s workspace. Let’s face it, when you put a group of people together in an office and have them interacting day in and day out, a pair or two is bound to wind-up dating. And, no matter the innocent or humble beginnings, there is always an obstacle course in the road ahead. If you choose to fore go the advice to avoid dating a coworker at all costs, be sure to keep the following tips in mind:
· Know your boundaries. Some companies have policies outlining how dating is or isn’t allowed in the work environment between coworkers. If dismissal is the bottom line, you should weigh the importance of your job against the unknowns of a potential relationship.
· Use discretion. Even if you’re madly in love, the office is no playground to display any form of affection. PDA and other forms of flaunting feelings only lead to unprofessional reputations and awkward moments that you’ve surely witnessed from the other side.
· It’s not in the details. Gossip is a minefield in an office- even for the most trusting of individuals. Know that if you choose to include some coworkers on the details, it’s likely you have just shared those intimate details with the whole office.
· On the clock. When you’re at work, you’re at work. Don’t send personal “love” emails on company time, especially with your company email address. Be mindful of showing up late on the same days, and if you’re on the same team, know that same-schedule vacations may not be an option.
· All are created equal. Whether you’re dating your superior, inferior, or counterpart, don’t exercise preferential treatment. Raises, praises, and promotions should be reserved for those who truly deserve it—fairly. Favoritism is the kiss of death in office relationships.
· It’s getting serious. If things are going really well and there’s a permanent future for you and your office love, it would be wise to consider that one of you look for another place of employment. In the long run, it is respectable and will eliminate the chatter that will inevitably follow both of your careers.
· It’s a dead end road. If the relationship (sigh) ends in animosity, you’ve dug your own hole. It is uncomfortable at best, but you must find a way to work peaceably in the same environment without saying anything negative about your ex. The walls of an office are paper-thin and it’s equally as humiliating for each involved party. The trick is to say as little as possible and stay focused on your work.
Making Etiquette Easy,
Susan K. Medina
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