Image from www.insearchformore.comWe've all had a friend (or maybe even ourselves) who has successfully embarked on a diet that has dramatically changed the way they look. You think they look so fabulous you can't wait to talk to them about it, but wait just a moment. Here are some things to think about before saying anything, even with good intentions:
- If at all possible, wait for an opportunity. A lot of people are very uncomfortable discussing their weight and consider it a private matter, even if there is a remarkable difference. Wait for them to open up, or find opportunities to say something if they mention taking a weight watchers course or order differently off the menu.
If you are the one who lost weight, you can politely refer someone to your doctor if you're not comfortable talking about it.
- Don't use comparative statements: Never say something like, 'You've lost so much weight!' It insinuates that they were heavy before, and can be taken negatively. Consider replacing these statements with something like, 'you look awesome,' which has no connotations to what they might've looked previously.
If you didn't lose weight, it can be frustrating when someone comments on it and you feel that they remember you being heavier. If this happens to you, feel free to say you're the same or just change the subject.
- Be Genuine: People can sense when you are being genuinely curious, primarily if you are wanting to employ the same dieting/exercise tips to yield your own results. Just make sure that the weight loss is intentional and not something brought on by illness or stress, which can create a lot of sensitivity.
If someone has commented on your appearance and it's not the result of a positive and purposed decision, it's okay to just thank them. If you do want to open up, make sure to tell the person you're so glad they think you look good in the midst of your circumstances.
Making Etiquette Easy,
Susan K. Medina
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